Today, our part time operator come to our office to do some semi final production work. She is a 50+ lady, single and staying in her HDB house with her younger sister. She had been out of job for more than a year.
During the past one year, she is doing part time job with us only. And we only need her once a mth for about a day. Sometime if she is lucky, we might need her for a week the most.
So today, out of sudden, I asked her:" Don't you feel boring sitting at home and do nothing?" Then she replied:"What nothing, there are plenty thing for me to do." "I visit my sisters, meeting friends, watching TV programe, washing clothes and house work." "Actually, I can be busy with it for the whole day."
And I suddenly realise :"Oh ya, what she said is correct too. Doesn't mean she is not working that mean she is loboing at home." I always heard my friends or reatives said singles are always very free. They always thought we are "宅男宅女". Then if they know that we are always busy with other things, then they will comment "wow, you busy is because of such things arh?" (to them they feel meaningless).
We human always have a preception. We think that ppls without job will be very slack and just lazy around. We think that ppls are singles are the most free person in the world because they do not have another commitment. We think that they just simiply doing things that are meaningless. (When I write this, it might be my preception as well.... but just know it. :)
But in meditation, as long as you know what you are doing in your daily life; You know your every moment to moment movement, thinking, action; No matter what you do as long as you know, it is called meaningful.
We always like to categorize this and that kind of people in our daily life including myself too. There are someone that I know, she told me:"Don't understand why those religion person are asking for money from the public." "Why are they waiting for the devotees to give them money?" "Why don't they just work for money themseleve."
Because she is just a layman, so my answer to her is:"If you look at they are teaching you something, and you can use it in daliy life. Then they are working for their own money." And then she keep quite.
Yes, of course I understand why they don't understand this and that. And my answer can be more than what I have explained to her. But to me, I just want to simplied things and let her know in a very simple way get her understand.
We always drop in to perception trap....... I always drop into it and always need a very long ladder to climb it out too...... haha......
We always dig our own trap..... haha.... I always laugh at myself when I realise it. :D
What I write here is not to crictise anyone, just want to remind myself do not drop into the trap if I read it again. Human are forgetful......
